When I first launched It’s Your Story to Tell, I wrestled with what to say and how to say it.

Like many who have walked through trauma—especially trauma that came through church hurt—I carried a deep tension. I knew what it felt like to be silenced, judged, or dismissed by people claiming to speak for God. I knew how disorienting it was to wrestle with questions like:

Where was God when that happened?

Why didn’t anyone intervene?

How can I trust again?

And still, I also knew that the only reason I made it through was because of God, not in spite of Him. His presence never left, even when people failed me.

That realization changed everything. It awakened in me a desire—not just to speak truth—but to become someone through whom the Holy Spirit could be encountered. Someone whose words didn’t just inform, but healed. Who didn’t just teach, but made others feel safe enough to be honest. Someone who could speak with authority, but also with softness. Boldness wrapped in compassion.

So, I asked God to show me how.

And this is what I’ve come to understand: Words carry spiritual weight.

They have the power to harm or to heal.
To divide or to restore.
To build trust or reinforce fear.
To reflect heaven—or echo hell.

And for trauma survivors, emotionally sensitive souls, or anyone navigating healing, the way we communicate is even more critical.

Why This Matters

When you've lived through trauma, especially trauma wrapped in spiritual language or institutional betrayal, communication gets complicated. You may have learned to stay silent just to survive. You may have practiced people-pleasing because honesty felt dangerous. You may have experienced deep internal conflict between wanting to express yourself and fearing the consequences.

Over time, this disconnection creates fragmentation—between your body and your voice, between your truth and your tone.

But here's what I want you to hear: Healing isn’t just about finding your voice—it’s about aligning it with love, truth, and spiritual presence.

The Power of Curiosity in Communication

One of the greatest shifts in my own healing happened when I learned to replace judgment with curiosity. Especially in hard conversations.

Most of us instinctively react when we feel misunderstood, dismissed, or disrespected. Our nervous system jumps into protection mode: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.

But curiosity gives us another option.

It’s not passive. It’s not weak. Curiosity is a powerful emotional regulation tool. It says:

• “What’s really going on beneath the surface?”
• “Is this pain about the present… or something older?”
• “How can I stay grounded in who I am, even when this is hard?”

This is where your spiritual walk intersects your emotional healing. Because staying curious often means staying surrendered. It means allowing the Holy Spirit to guide your thoughts, your tone, your words.

The Role of Alignment

When we speak from a place of alignment—where our tone, timing, and intention match the heart of God—we create healing space.

Alignment doesn’t mean perfection. It means integrity. It means your inner world isn’t in conflict with what you’re trying to say. It means your voice flows from a regulated nervous system and a connected spirit.

That’s why in my book Unstuck, I don’t just teach communication tips. I help you heal the inner world that your words flow from. I give you strategies to speak with clarity, hold healthy boundaries, and choose communication that reflects who you truly are—not who past trauma taught you to be.

Because when your voice is in alignment, your relationships shift. Your confidence grows. Your influence expands. And most of all—you stop abandoning yourself in the name of keeping peace.

The Invitation

If this resonates with you, I want to invite you deeper.

My new book Unstuck is available now for just $0.99 on Kindle this month. It’s already hit #X on Amazon in its category, and it’s filled with stories, tools, and spiritual insights to help you heal the roots of reactivity and learn to communicate from a place of wholeness.

But there’s more.

This fall, I’m offering a 6-week immersive training called Sacred Presence. This is for women ready to move from surviving to ministering, from silent to Spirit-led.

In this space, you’ll learn to:

• Discern and dismantle the spirit of offense
• Cultivate your presence as a vessel of peace and healing
• Understand nervous system regulation as a spiritual practice
• Speak with wisdom, walk with power, and lead with love

Whether you’re a ministry leader, a trauma survivor, or someone who simply wants to stop shrinking and start showing up—this is for you.

We were never meant to heal alone.
And we were never meant to speak from pain we haven’t yet processed.

Let’s Speak Differently

If you’ve ever wondered how to be a healing presence in a hurting world…

If you’ve ever longed to use your voice without fear…

If you’ve ever asked God to teach you how to love others well—without losing yourself in the process…

Then maybe this is your moment to step into that sacred alignment.

Let’s speak with truth.
Let’s lead with curiosity.
Let’s carry His presence.

Ready to begin?

📖 Grab your copy of Unstuck today. It’s just $0.99 for a limited time.

Want to go deeper? Join the Sacred Presence 6-week training—registration closes August 14th for the August 15th session. Enrollment for the Fall Session will open on September 15th for the Fall Session starting October 6th-24th.

And let’s watch what happens when our communication becomes a catalyst for transformation.

Because your voice matters.
And the world needs it—whole, holy, and healed.